I was sixteen weeks pregnant on my wedding day, can you say stressful?
Bennie and I had been engaged for five months when we found out that we were expecting Papaya and had our wedding date set for December. Somewhere along the line one of us thought that it would be fun if we waited until our wedding reception to announce it to our friends and family. For months before the big day I scoured the internet looking for fun ideas or anything that could be helpful but I really could not find anything that met my needs. So here are my five tips for announcing your pregnancy at your wedding!
1. Try not to stress
If you are reading this you have probably heard this before but I am going to say it again. Stress during pregnancy is not good for you or for your baby. It will all be okay. I wasted so much time worrying about what everyone would think and in the end we did not have any negative reactions.
2. Make sure to tell close family members ahead of the time
This includes parents, grandparents and siblings. I think it would be a big shock to your close family if they found out this way and emotions do run high when you share your big news. If you tell your parents ahead of the time it gives them the space to process the unexpected news. We told most of our family that we were expecting a few days after having found out. The exception being Benjamin's grandmother who lives in Germany, we waited to tell her in person when she came for our wedding.
3. Don’t leave clues lying around
This one is courtesy of Bennie. Before we decided that we would share our news in a speech at the reception we played around with the idea of having the announcement be a part of the décor. In all the craziness of a do it yourself wedding we forgot to remove the frame that had the clue on it. Luckily the people who did notice didn’t say anything about it.
4. Make sure the people who are in on the secret remember that it is a secret
I’m not going to say too much more about this one. It may be worth mentioning to your family members who know that you are pregnant that you plan on making a big announcement and that you would appreciate it if they could keep the news to themselves until you have told everyone.
5. Have fun with it
This is some advice that I really needed. Before we broke the news I had giant butterflies in my already cramped tummy and I felt that we needed to be very serious when we did tell everyone. In hindsight I wish that we did go for one of the ideas we had that was a bit more fun.
If anyone has had a similar experience I would love to hear any tips that you have. If you enjoyed this post feel free to share with your friends!